On Forgiveness

Why is it so difficult for us to forgive others?
Why do we find it so hard to let go?

Sometimes, even years after a certain incident;
sometimes, even after they have apologized;
sometimes, when they have hurt you unknowingly
and have no idea that you are struggling to forgive
them.

Why?

Because we are usually under the misconception t
hat we will be doing them a favor by forgiving them.

That in fact, is not the case.

When we forgive someone, we actually do ourselves
huge favor because through forgiveness.

We release all the negative thoughts, emotions and
energies that we are so desperately holding onto in
our anger.

Replaying the moment again and again in our mind,
torturing ourselves in so many ways.

It hurts us more than them, when we don't forgive.

We find it hard to forgive because we think we are
n the more powerful position when we hold back
forgiveness.

Actually we are the weak ones, if that's the kind
of power we rely on to give us strength.

We are also not able to forgive because we take
everything so personally.

Not everything another person does is done with
the concious intention of hurting you.

Sometimes they are just trying to protect t
hemselves and that's the best they know how
to protect themselves.

Haven't you heard of the saying 'The Best
Defence is Offense'?

We need to give allowance to others for their
insecurities and their imperfections without
aking things personally.

So even if you do it for the most selfish of
easons, go ahead and forgive.

First, forgive yourself for holding onto the
grudge for as long as you did.

Then, forgive the other person.

Finally, be proud of yourself.